By Rich Simon It seems astonishing that even just two or three decades ago, parents not only pretty much knew what was expected of them to turn their offspring into civilized adults, but they could actually count on society to back them up. Even more astounding, kids seemed to understand this, too. Even if they rebelled against, yelled about, or sullenly resented how “unfair” adults were, they seemed to acknowledge adult authority and realize that they would just have to wait until they turned 18 to get for themselves the keys to the kingdom of grown-up independence.
![]() NP0021 The 6 Most Challenging Issues in TherapyThis blog focuses on discussion regarding the course NP0021 The 6 Most Challenging Issues in Therapy... and How Therapists Can Overcome Them.Treating the Narcissistic Client with Wendy BeharyThe 6 Most Challenging Issues in Therapy: NP0021 - Session 3Explore a treatment plan for clients with narcissistic personality disorder that helps you maintain compassion while achieving leverage. Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, teaches how to use tactical confrontation, cognitive restructuring, behavioral therapy and skills training, experiential psychotherapy, and more. After you hear this presentation, please take a few minutes to comment about what you found most interesting or relevant, to ask any questions you have of the presenter or your colleagues, or to share any experiences. As always, if you ever have any technical questions, please feel free to email support@psychotherapynetworker.org and our Support Team will help you. Comments |
This is an excellent question!
Differentiating between "normal" developmental adolescent narcissism, and the burgeoning pathological narcissism of our era, is an important investigation nowadays. The acceleration of instant gratification opportunities, given technologically induced mechanisms for "I want it now, I get it now" outcomes, certainly play a role in the emerging predictable epidemic of (very) low frustration/discomfort tolerance in our young people. Using imagination and empathy training is becoming ever more important in our treatment repertoire for slowing down the express-train mind of the adolescent, allowing them to take in the scenery (feelings and experiences of themselves and others)along the way.
Thanks for the thoughtful question!
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Libby
Dr. Behary, if you are still reading the blog, 3 questions: 1) Does this type of narcissism present the same way in women? 2) What do you think of Gregory Lester's (presenter on personality disorders) description of folks with PD's as missing "fundamental pieces of personality architecture"? His take is that while a narcissist can learn some new behaviors, including empathy, accountability, and access to feelings, it will be limited due to experiences that were never wired in early enough. 3) Steven Carter and Julie Sokol, in their book "Help! I'm in love with a Narcissist" describe a different presentation called the "Wounded Narcissist". In this case, the client appears very emotional, tearful, desirous of help, insightful, and needy but is still just as self-absorbed, mistrustful, and unable to give. Do you see this as a type of narcissism? THANK YOU!!
I would like to have heard a few ways in which you have used memory activation , if you are still responding.. A wonderful hr.....Many thanks...
I agree with everyone above. I also want to add that this series, so far, has been the best series since I started listening to your webinars. I've recommended it to several of my colleagues.
I am so pleased to know that the program was helpful to you, and I am delighted to answer questions. I will follow-up with you shortly... Please also feel free to email me: wendy.behary@gmail.com
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Wendy